There are many facets to masculinity. Character, behavior and appearance for example. Mindset is another important part of masculinity. What is the masculine mindset and which effects does it have on your life once you adapt it? Keep reading and find out.
What is the masculine mindset? The masculine mindset is a state of mind and a set of beliefs that help you succeed and be fulfilled as a man. Some examples of masculine mindsets;
- You’re a man and that’s OK
- Don’t give too many F**ks
- Realize you can always improve
- You’re responsible for yourself.
Masculinity
Maybe you want to find out what masculinity means. This article is about a masculine mindset. There are several posts on this site about other parts of masculinity. Check out the posts linked below if you’re interested.
Mindset
What is a mindset? Most people will have an idea of what the word means but for the purpose of clarity it always helps to know what we’re exactly talking about.
Cambridge dictionary: “a person’s way of thinking and their opinions”
Macmillandictionary.com: “a way of thinking about things”
So clearly your mindset is the way you’re thinking about many important things.
What does your mindset influence?
In short; everything you have control over and probably some things you don’t have direct control over. The way you think, influences your decisions. Decisions have consequences. Those consequences will influence other things in your life to be different.
Changing your mindset can have a far reaching impact. It’s not easy to change your mindset but, probably worth it in the end if you change it to something better than it is currently.
What makes a mindset good?
Good and bad is difficult to qualify in this context. It seems to me that a “good” mindset would be one that serves you well.
A mindset that helps you make the right decisions, helps you have a positive outlook on life and treat others well (or as well as they deserve), while fitting in your moral framework.
It also has to be something you really believe. You might be able to act like you believe certain things for a while. When things get difficult and you have to make hard choices, you probably won’t be able to keep up the façade though.
That’s also what makes changing your mindset very difficult. It means changing (some of) your beliefs to the core. This is something that takes time and doesn’t often happen without some sort of trauma or necessity.
What is a masculine mindset?
Now we know what mindset is and why it’s important, let’s look at what it means to have a masculine mindset. This is a short introduction. More in depth explanations coming up in the future.
Here are the four ways of thinking that are the most important parts of a masculine mindset.
1. You’re a man and that’s OK.
Masculinity seems to be somewhat frowned upon nowadays. That has led to many men trying to be the least masculine they can be. Or at least hide their masculinity which is not very masculine in the first place.
The most important part of adopting a masculine mindset is to realize that you’re a man and it’s OK to be masculine. It’s not only OK but it would most likely be better for you.
Being accepting of your masculinity will lead you to doing more masculine things. This will help you make new friends, expand your social network, create new opportunities and in the end improve your life. That will in turn cause you to become a more confident person.
Realizing that it’s fine to be masculine will greatly help you to become more confident and becoming a better version of yourself.
2. Don’t give too many F***s
You don’t have to please everyone all the time. You don’t have to care what everyone thinks of you. Sure, you might want to please some people at certain times, but only because you want to do it. Not because that’s what you’re “supposed” to do.
It doesn’t matter what other people think of the house, car you buy, where you go on holiday, your job, etc. As long as you know where you’re going and are on your path, it doesn’t matter.
Caring about what other people think of you is not going to make you any happier or more successful. To be able to not care you need a certain degree of confidence.
3. Realize you can always improve
Everyone can improve, no matter what it is. While it’s good to be confident, it’s also very beneficial to your future to realize that you can improve many aspects of yourself.
This can of course be a plethora of different things. You can improve strengths and weaknesses in character, behavior, beliefs, and capabilities.
Some examples would be; You know you are good at leading people but you also know you’re prone to getting angry too quickly.
If you realize you can always improve, you’re much more likely to see things you can improve in yourself. It also makes accepting criticism a lot easier.
Once you discover that a certain part of you can/has to improve, you should also make an effort to actually become better.
4. You are responsible for yourself
If you’re a man, people are way less likely to help you in life than if you were a pretty girl. That’s the way it is, deal with it.
After you grow up, no one is going to take care of you like your mom (hopefully) did. It’s part of becoming an adult male, to realize that your life is up to you. Sure there are things that are out of your control but if you’re being completely honest, how many bad things that happened to you could have been prevented by your own choices. Surely, not everything but, many things probably could have been.
Oh, and if you’re looking for a replacement mommy in your relationship with a woman, that relationship is probably not going to be very healthy.
Some examples of beliefs that are beneficial to adapt,
- You have to take care of yourself
- you have to take control of your own life
- you have to take responsibility for your actions
- Don’t give a F***
- Dare to be dangerous
- Be competitive
- Getting rid of victim mentality
Those are all big tasks that require a big shift in thinking for many people. Although it’s a lot of work, don’t underestimate the power this can have over the end results of your life.
