Adopting a masculine mindset isn’t always easy. One part of the masculine mindset is to adopt the idea that you can always get better. There are several parts to this mindset you should know about. Want to find out what they are? Keep reading.
Why you should realize you can always improve: If you think you can’t get better at something or improve your life, you won’t. The only way to actively improve your life and become the man you want to be is to know you can and have to improve.
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“You’re perfect the way you are”
You’ve probably heard this phrase. “You’re perfect the way you are.”
Well, sorry to burst your bubble, you’re not. I don’t even know you but I know that nobody is perfect. It might feel nice to hear you’re perfect since that means you don’t have to do any work to improve yourself.
Having the mindset that you’re perfect the way you are, is easy in the short run. But in the long run, your weaknesses might cause you to stay stagnant in life.
But I AM perfect!
You might be perfect in some ways. That’s great. Are you perfect in every single way? If you are I would like to meet you. I’m sure there are plenty of things I could learn from you.
Everyone has some part of their life they can improve. Sure, some people have more potential to improve than other’s but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try.
Aim to be better
I’ve used the word “perfect” to illustrate the point that you can always improve. Most people will quickly realize they’re not perfect.
Once you realize that you’re not perfect, you realize that you can improve.
Does that mean you have to aim to always be perfect? Aiming to be perfect all the time is going to make your life very frustrating. Since nobody is perfect, that’s going to be an unattainable standard that you’ll never reach. Having a goal that you can never reach is not a good thing. It will demotivate you at some point, once you realize it’s impossible.
Instead, set concrete goals on how you want to improve. Once you reach that goal, assess again. Do you want to improve the same thing even more? Or would you see more returns by focusing on another goal?
Try to improve your life in areas where you will see the most returns for your efforts.
Realize WHAT you can improve
After realizing that you can improve, think about WHAT you can or should improve.
This will be different for everyone. I’m sure that everyone will know something they can improve immediately when they honestly look at their life.
- Relationships with partner, family, friends
- Financial situation
- Character traits (maybe anger, negativity, etc.)
Most people will find something they can/should improve in the above list. If not, take a dive into your life and see what you can.
Plan how to improve
Realizing that you can improve something is a good start. Now it’s time to start doing something about it. You need to make a plan. You can write it down or not, do whatever works for you. For me personally, writing things down somewhere you will see it sometimes is useful.
There are two parts to making a plan;
- What’s the end goal?
- How are you going to get there?
Try to make the goal as concrete and realistic as possible. Something that’s attainable but challenging enough so you’ll feel proud once you’ve reached it. Giving the goal a time dimension will help you keep a decent pace.
For example; “I want to have lost 25Kg by this time next year.”
This helps you figure out what the road there looks like. Since there are 12 months in a year, you can now figure out that you’ll have to lose a little bit more than 2Kg a month on average.
From here you can think about the calorie deficit and exercise you’ll have to do. You can set smaller monthly, weekly or even daily goals.
Of course for something like weight loss it’s a bit easier since you’re dealing with numbers. If you’re trying to improve your anger problem it’s a little less cut and dry.
Once you’ve got a plan, take action. A plan is useless if you don’t follow it. Just start. If along the way you notice that the plan is impossible, change it a little bit. But don’t change it if you’re not even trying.
Make a plan you can follow. If you already that something is impossible before you start, it’s unlikely you will even try.
Whatever your plan is though, getting started is very important.
The journey never ends
Part of adapting a masculine mindset is that you can never rest. That has an upside and a downside.
Bad news first; You will always have to be doing something to improve. This is hard work and is not an easy thing to do.
The good news; You will always have something to do. There are always goals you can work towards. Reaching goals will help give your life meaning and make you feel fulfilled. It prevents your life from being stagnant and getting stuck in one place.
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